Wednesday, March 04, 2009

I confess

My kids watch way more tv than they should and it is all due to my lazy parenting. It is one thing to tell my friends that, an another to share it with the world. I have used the tv as a babysitter for as long as I can remember. I really suck as a parent and I really don't want my kids to grow up and remember me as the mom who was there, but not really there for them. Sure, I get up in the morning make them breakfast, turn on the tv, take care of their needs and then go back to sleep. I take them to the park or a museum, I take them on adventures, but when we are at home the tv is on. I decided today that we were going to have a no tv day and told Porter this. Porter turned the tv on twice in a 30 min period before he went to school, but quickly turned it off when he remembered. After school today he asked me a few times to watch a show and I just told him that it was a no tv day. He played outside just for a little while, we played battling cards, read books and he played in his room by himself, something he rarely does. I was honestly shocked that he did so well and I got a lot more done and played with my kids more. I remember when I used to babysit and I would tell myself that I would be the kind of mom that sat and played with their kids and watch movies with them. It is sad to me that I have chosen to use the tv as a replacement. This is really hard for me to write. I want to be a better mom, I want them to remember me as a mom who was there with them actively engaging in their lives. I say to you my kids, my husband, my family, my friends, my readers that I am going to make a change and be a better parent.

6 comments:

  1. You're not alone... my excuse is my husband works long hours and I'm so busy in the meantime trying to keep everything going that sometimes (i.e. a LOT)the TV comes to the rescue and lets me get stuff done in peace. Doesn't make me feel good about it, though.

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  2. Anonymous6:00 AM

    Awesome!

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  3. Congrats! You are not alone in the struggle - I am personally thankful the digital conversion took away our reliance on early morning shows. (the converters don't work)

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  4. First, you don't "suck as a parent." You are a great mom!! Good luck with this. I am sure it is going to be a great transition for everyone.

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  5. You inspired me! We've had no TV today either and the girls have been playing so nicely and quietly together all afternoon. Dare I say, even more so than if they had been watching TV. I love it. And all those sentiments you expressed, I share them and totally understand. You are a great mom, please try to remember that!

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  6. I thought I'd hate it when we gave up our cable, but so far, it's been kinda awesome. We still have the TV connected to a computer and so watch stuff online sometimes, but we're not staring at that thing nearly as much.

    I've also noticed that when my kids are watching TV regularly, they are whining for it ALL THE FREAKING TIME. If I leave it off, they find other things to do.

    So really, your doing yourself a favor by turning the damn thing off. It's actually EASIER to parent without it (in my world).

    On another note, I'm not a play-with-my-kids kind of mom. And I've stopped trying to be. It's just not who we are. Whatever.

    But you're an awesome mom. And I'm hoping to see you at the park later!

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